emotions · opinion

Marriage – ?!?!?!

This article in The Hindu struck me…it did not really shock me as it would have maybe years back. It still jolts me to think that woman killed her young kids!!! Why did it not shock me??
Well, the article talks about sore marriage driving her to do this…I think many women would relate to a sore marriage in an alien country. They leave their home to be with the man they love…when reality sets in, it gets difficult. The country is alien, no family near by and very few people you can really trust. The guy goes out the whole day to work (well, he has to get the bacon home!). The women are stuck at home, winters especially being harsh. Slowly it gets to you. Misunderstandings happen. If they are not managed, either the woman lives in depression almost all the while or ends up like this in an extreme case.
Mabbe movies like Provoked: A True Story gave the woman the idea to set fire to the house with her in it…but the children?!?
Don’t know what the real story behind that headline is….what the “medical condition” is or anything…but what made me write this post is because I feel that this is just an extreme (really extreme ) reaction to a troubled marriage. Point is many marriages become troubled due to circumstances….like those I listed. Some ignore it and it becomes a kind of status quo, some end up in separation, some are dealt with constant arguments/disagreements….
What can be done?? The men can be more understanding to the plight of the woman he has married, who has left a lot to be with the one she loves. The woman can find ways to get out of the rut of loneliness, joblessness and all those nesses with the support of family& friends (easier said than done…but definitely doable) More than anything civil conversation with mutual understanding between the husband and wife…no accusations, total support for each other, burying past disagreements (got atleast a million more that will come up in daily life 😉 ) , total trust in each other….will definitely go a long way. One should realise the sacrifices made by the other and acknowledge it. Live with each other’s faults and pluses…try enhance the pluses, suppress the faults…
Sounds good atleast in theory…should be implementable atleast to a certain extent. Have heard many “successful” couples say that marriage is constant work 🙂
Bottomline…whatever drove her to take her life, I really condemn murder of that lady’s kids!!!

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