Don’t bother about others!!

How many times would we have heard the title told to us by different people at different times? One should have heard variations of that statement…
Can one really do that though is my question! Take what appeals to you and leave the rest that hurts ?! Is it that easy?
To me personally, I can do neither. Both appreciative and insensitive remarks affect me…the latter more so 🙂
How can someone ignore other people or their remarks?? We do know that man is a social animal 🙂 Don’t live by what the society says they say…but don’t we live in the same society?? Catch 22?!? We form the society we say…but there are so many different opinions…which ones should we listen to, react and the question is can we really ignore what does not appeal to us?
There might be people who have mastered that art…I certainly am not one of them. I fret about everything said about me…especially those not so appealing (for me that is 😉 ) comments. I wonder if I can change something or try justify my position. Am I wrong? Or should I start getting answers ready for why I am right?! 😉
I know I cannot change overnight…but one thing I am trying is to not let comments affect my life (which itself is a task – mind you!) Hope I can get to a comfortable place soon!!
As a plaque at home says “LORD Grant me patience but HURRY!” 😀

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Fat or Fit?

Was watching We, The People on NDTV. The topic of discussion – Are Indians obsessed with weight?
Interesting programme and really interesting views… I have written about my views on weight!
This though rekindled those thoughts. How one lady says she lost 25 kgs and was not any happier…though she would like to lose weight too – an equivocal attitude. Something that I struggle with myself so many times (I am kinda comfortable with how I look…though have been called fat by people which would make me feel bad and get back into the slump of feeling fat and remembering every person’s comments on how fat I am or what I must do about it etc..,)
I feel it is not just India obsessed with weight…it is everywhere.
I liked one member of the audience- a doctor’s remark saying Indian women have always been depicted as being voluptuous and suddenly they want to be stick thin! And Pooja Bhat’s remark saying she does not want “starvation chic”
Overall, it was said that people should think more about being fit not fat /thin. This just reminded me of one “friend’s” remark…. when I told that person that all my numbers (BP, cholesterol, sugar ) were ok and that my doctor said I was ok… her remark was your doc is being too kind and you should change him!!! What can you say to such people?!? And when you are low, these remarks hit you hard and push you even more to the wrong side!!