The number of times I have heard this!! The concept that if I break down into tears, I am not strong is another thing. Don’t know where this concept arises from: If you cry, it is a sign of weakness. Don’t cry. You need to be a role model for your kid; so don’t show that you are sad.
Why do we have so many boundaries to the so called negative emotions? These days, people accept that it is wrong to bottle up anger, but tears – oh! please control yourself. Don’t make a scene etc..,
Where did the opinion of breaking down crying means an absolute break down come from – as in you don’t have the means to face situations thrown at you? These days, I don’t cry as much as I used to – say 6 months back. Though there are times, when I cannot hold back. It does not mean that I am weak or that I cannot face anything. Infact, once done, I still face the life that has been thrown at me.
One asked me, well, did the crying help you solve the situation? No, it did not; but there was some relief in stress once I was done. It was out and over with; and I was ready to look at the situation with a fresh set of tears forming probably 😉 and cleansed eyes.
So, when some one cries….don’t tell them not to…instead lend your shoulder, put an arm around them to show that you understand. That someone is not weak, she (he) just needs that reassurance.
Just a note to end, to those who think I am not strong…may be in your world I am not. To me, I am. I still have hope in my life to live and succeed (the way the world perceives success) – that in itself shows that I am strong!