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Isn’t it weird?

I’ve off late been wondering how weird it is that people with most access to technology and the best means of communication are the most incommunicado. Or is it just those who are in my life who are like that?
These highly tech savvy people seem to have internet access 24/7, a phone with a good network in their hands (phones like the iphone or blackberry), signed up in all kinds of networks from Google+ to facebook to Twitter to whatever else there is…. So in theory, they must be accessible all the time and respond to a call by some means. Sadly, this is not the case.

I feel like I was more in touch with people back in the days when we did not have mobile phones, and internet was at snail’s pace and not omnipresent. Is it me? Probably it is!!

Read this somewhere

The Silent Killer of relationships is the lack of communication…. communicate before misunderstanding separates you, with hurt, pain, n thoughts

How many of us bother to just say hello?! or even smile at someone we know when we pass by them on the corridor at work?! When all it takes is even a virtual poke or a text message, there seems to be hardly any effort to keep in touch. If someone calls out of the blue, the thought that crosses one’s mind is …ok so what does that person want?! Get to the point already!!!

As I said earlier, may be it is just me and my cynical-self! I used to make an effort to drop that occasional email just to say hi and enquire about welfare. Now I just feel it is futile. I used to send in updated pics of A to people….now I don’t bother! In fact there are times I feel like it is not worth the time or effort to do any of this.

I had quite an accident last week. Called this friend who I have known for ages now. Recounted this…and in the midst of handling this, hung up after asking a query about where I can get the car repaired. Had I been in this person’s place or had it been a few years back, I would have received a call say half an hour or hour later enquiring if things were alright. Guess what? The person pings me when I log on to a chat module much later in the night….and asks “so did you get the car to the repair shop?!” I lost it and responded saying that the question was way too early to be answered…and this friend just disappeared! I guess I must just be thankful that this friend even bothered to ask me later on at night?!?!

Just feel like I am turning more cynical, more bitter & less hopeful by the day. Makes me wonder if it is just me or people are just not what they used to be?! Feel like there is more distance now that the world is virtually a much smaller place…at least in my case!

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5 thoughts on “Isn’t it weird?

  1. Sorry not sure if I follow the entire sequence of events. Did ur friend hang up on you while u were talking abt the accident? If so then shame on the friend. But if u talked abt the accident already and the friend knew you were ok and the friend told you where to take the car then that I think is reAsonable especially if the friend already knew u were ok. And that the criend followed up with asking u again abt the car is also decent enough.
    Thankfully and hopefully you are ok.

    1. Well as I had written, I hung up the call saying I had to go to handle stuff due to the accident. I had just recounted saying the place suggested was busy & would not take the car… so mid-way telling him that the other parties involved had walked in, I hung up. I was extremely upset & a person who used to be extremely supportive up to a couple of months back doing something as insensitive which was out of character especially at a time when I needed some help (emotional support more…) hurt me far more. As I did put in, had it been earlier, he would have tried to contact me way earlier than when he actually did to ask if I had dealt with the car. I did not need him to be physically present even…just a call or text?! Not reasonable? Don’t think so.
      I am just shaken up by the whole accident… down by a lot of money & richer by the knowledge that struck me real hard – you know who your real friends are, and a lot more about people & their attitudes. This felt bad as I guess I didn’t expect this out of this particular friend ever – the cold, insensitive, am too busy to care attitude.

    1. Don’t know about the rest of the year! Just that this particular friend I have written about I know from way back!!! close to 15 years now I think or may be more….we were really really close. Hence feel kinda numb that this is happening. To say that we “were” friends itself is weird. What hurts more is the I don’t care attitude of this person who has not yet attempted to get in touch with me. Guess such is life!!

  2. On a completely separate note, I hv always wondered about the meaning of your blog name. Can u pl blog abt what “myheadtrip” means?

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