Choices

Do we have any in life? If we believe our destiny is decided already…do we really have any choice? We are also told destiny is what we make. Which theory would one believe in?

I think I have penned this before…everything seems to have contradictory views. Every proverb has an equal and opposite proverb!

  • Absence makes the heart grow fonder. ~ Out of sight, out of mind.
  • All good things come to those who wait. ~ Time and tide wait for no man.
  • Birds of a feather flock together. ~ Opposites attract.
  • You’re never too old to learn. ~ You can’t teach an old dog new tricks
  • Don’t cross your bridges before you come to them. ~ Forewarned is forearmed.
  • Doubt is the beginning of wisdom. ~ Faith will move mountains.

List goes on!! (like life 😉 ).

Off late, I have been thinking (duh….!) . I have been wondering if all I have been offered in life has been Hobson’s choice! It feels like I have a lot to choose from though in reality, there is nothing or just the one obvious. I have been looking back in all that has happened in life as far as my memory serves. I wonder if others share this thought process.I hope there are those who do think this way. I am being told that I over-think everything. May be I do!

Well, right now I do feel like I am taking life as it comes with the illusion that I am making choices (many bad ones at that most of the times! or so I believe that I made them!!).

Reminded of Joey from F.R.I.E.N.D.S asking “if you know what I mean…” and Monica answering “we always know!”. I feel like Joey right now!! :p

 

Conflicting…

How many of us have been told …hey look and learn from that person? How much has he/she scored in some test or look at how well she/he does things? Keeping up with the Joneses has been a concept everywhere. Some time or other, we certainly have been told to be better. Look at people who are better to strive to be that way. We have been tuned to want better stuff in life. Appraisal time at work, ratings amongst peer group – obviously we all want to be above peer group. Everywhere we have to do more than we did or someone else did.

Now where is the conflict?

I am talking only about how the situation is with me. I do wonder if it is the same with others out there. When I feel down & think of my life – am told hey look, there is this person who is struggling to just get a meal a day. There is that person desperate to have a child. Count your blessings. You have a job, a kid, a roof above your head, etc etc….

So, when at that time I snap and say why must I not want more. Why must I not want a proper family (as in a dad for my child)? A house I own? or a job where I learn, improve & earn? I am told I am insensitive.

My question is when do have to stop wanting to be better? When should one stop trying and disregard the try, try till you succeed saying?

Even all those proverbs are conflicting…one can use whatever depending on which side they want to speak on

Knowledge is power vs. Ignorance is bliss
Absence makes the heart grow fonder vs. Out of sight, out of mind
Nothing ventured, nothing gained vs. Better safe than sorry….

The list goes on.

Do I keep thinking that life will get better? Or do I just say, fine I am blessed to be alive & accept the way things are?

Guess the cliché “time will tell” is what I will be told. I guess it will be way too late & my life will be over when time does tell….I do think that my life is already over when I hear of how I must be just satisfied with what I am blessed with!! Wonder if I ever will be wise/mature enough to understand when I must want to strive to be better & when I must sit back/ relax?!